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just want to validate that this isn't naive it's extremely important: this acts as a kind of cognitive bias that makes even very smart people make very poor decisions, because they have poor theory of mind of their opponents, because they consistently see the worst in them, can only see evil that doesn't want to cooperate, feel despair, and give up on trying to cooperate or make anything better.

It is absolutely a downward spiral and can be short circuited. People recoil when they hear this advice because they think "do something good for someone you perceive as evil". But you can reframe it as: those who understand their opponents are the most likely to win & outcompete. I tried to convey this here:

- https://defenderofthebasic.substack.com/p/blue-tribe-is-starting-to-win-by

- https://defenderofthebasic.substack.com/p/criticizing-your-own-tribe-is-how

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I randomly came across this clip from Dr. John Delony on "fundamental attribution error:"

https://www.tiktok.com/@johndelony/video/7236495277811830062

I think he's so right when he says that trying to figure out why someone said/did something is an "exhausting way to live." And I agree with you that things work out best when you assume the best/give the benefit of the doubt... because isn't that what you want from others, to assume the best of you? Maybe that's naive, but I guess I'd rather live that way than assuming the worst and constantly on the defensive.

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